DP: what do you think of this?

Q. Third Wheel Brother: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. The first year of our relationship, we lived with his brother. Eventually, our relationship grew strained because we were NEVER alone. His brother ended up moving out after all three of us had a huge fight where a lot of mean things were said. Secretly, I was glad he moved out because I had finally lost my third wheel. The problem is that since moving out, I have come to resent him every time he comes over to visit. My boyfriend and I work opposite schedules and we see each other one day a week. Conveniently his brother wants to come over on that day, and they play video games and watch football. I've gotten so grumpy about it that I just hide in the bedroom. I have attempted to express my concerns to my boyfriend, but he thinks I hate his brother. How can I get some quality time?

A: I agree it's time to end having a third wheel, so I suggest you find your own other living arrangements as soon as possible. Your boyfriend was fine with having you bunk with him and his ever-hovering brother. Now you and your boyfriend only see each other one day a week, a day that's devoted to hanging out with bro. It sounds to me as if you're someone who helps pay the rent, and is available for sex, but you don't have the basis for an intimate relationship. When you try to express your concerns about this state of affairs, your boyfriend says you hate his brother. I think it's fine that you do, but I don't see any reason for liking your boyfriend very much, either.